This has been my facebook profile picture for the past year. It is a picture of two of my children. Shaniel and Steven. Shaniel was my third child. Steven, my fourth. They were just about three years apart in age... but close enough to be the best of friends.
Shaniel and Steven have both passed away. I keep a picture of them as my profile picture to keep them constantly visual... just as if they were here.
Shaniel was murdered by her husband on February 10, 2013. She was 32 years old and left behind four children. Her husband killed himself as well. Steven died by suicide on Labor Day last year. September 7, 2015. He was also 32 years old and left behind a wife and two natural and two step children. Both have been very hard deaths on our family. Never would I expected this to happen to them, to me, to their siblings, and children.
Shaniel's death was extremely difficult on all of us. Steven shut down and never talked about it. I believe if Shaniel were here today that Steven would be here too. I can't believe what one person's choices and actions can do to change the life of so many people. Our's is forever changed.
The picture of Shaniel and Steven were taken at Thanksgiving Point during the Tulip Festival in 2010. We have always gotten together as often as we could to do things as a family. To make memories and strengthen family ties and for cousins to become good friends.
All but one of my girls were there for the picture. I am thankful for so many good and wonderful memories of my children. For those left behind, I consider each day I am with my children and grandchildren a cherished gift. A gift I never take for granted. To see them, hear them, hug them and love them is more precious than anything.
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I'm so sorry for your losses - I cannot imagine how I would go on. You are a strong woman, and wise, and your children and grandchildren are lucky that you consider them all as cherished gifts.
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ReplyDeleteOur family lost my Dad when he was in his 30's, leaving behind my Mom to raise us 6 kids. It was devastating for our family, but she has said before that she's grateful it was never one of us kids that she lost. No parent should have to outlive a child. You do a beautiful job of cherishing them.
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for your loss. Your strength (and I suppose faith) is an inspiration to any parent who has or is dealing with the loss of a child. Yes, you are forever changed, but your choice to cherish all that you do have now, will certainly bless you for many years to come.
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